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By December 22, 2021June 28th, 2022No Comments

After trying for a baby for two years, we luckily became pregnant with out first child just two days before we signed the paperwork to undergo IVF treatment. A lucky miracle I call it.

I’d spent so much time looking into fertility and how difficult getting pregnant can actually be!

I’m also a midwife of eleven years, with experience mostly on the labour ward but also in teaching and more recently community, so seeing people everyday and them telling me their ‘lucky’ stories of falling pregnant made my two years very long indeed.

However, we were lucky, we had no bleeding, no blood pressure issues, the downs screening came back very low and despite sickness that lasted until 22 weeks and horrendous heartburn, I couldn’t complain!
My midwife started measuring me at 26 weeks, when she picked up that I was SFD (small for dates.) I also never felt my baby move.

I started undergoing seriel growth scans. I send my own patients for these all the time and they generally come back fine, so I wasn’t worried. My consultant did a TORCH blood screen for infections. The TORCH screen is a group of blood tests that check for several different infections in a newborn. TORCH stands for toxoplasmosis, rubella, cytomegalovirus, herpes simplex, and HIV, but it can also include other newborn infections.

Well I knew I was fit and healthy and didn’t have any infections, but it’s only a blood test, so why not?

That’s when my world crumbled. I had had CMV at some point during the first trimester, meaning my baby could be infected. Although reassurances told us he may not be ‘affected.’ Whilst I’d heard of it, I had never known anyone who had had cmv. How on earth had I picked this up? Where had it come from? This was my fault. Of course I’ve since gone on and read about it more and realise how easy it is to contract and with all my work with families and children, who knows where it came from?

We started googling, and found that he may have some learning disabilities or mild hearing loss, not a problem we thought.

The consultant suggested an amniocentesis, which we had at 33+1 weeks.
We also had a brain scan which now showed ventricularmegaly, some brain abnormalities.
We then went onto have an MRI scan at the John Radcliffe Hospital in Oxford.
Our baby was disagnosed with severe CMV, there was poor growth, enlarged liver / abdomen, a small head and no brain activity at all.

Our beautiful baby Oscar William, was stillborn at 33+6 weeks, on 9th March 2015, my shining star.

And now, 4years along I’m a mum of a healthy and crazy little girl and her younger sibling is on its way too.

Pregnancy has been nerve wracking both times around but I’ve strictly stuck to the no sharing food / cutlery rules and luckily both pregnancies have run smoothly.

Little Oscar will always be my first born and I remember him everyday.

by Sharon and Tim